Daniel Radcliffe for London Magazine (x)
So, I was just casually hanging out in the Jily tag yesterday, like you do. I actually saw someone who tried to say James and Lily weren’t canon.
Look, I fully support your right to ship what you want but we literally have seven books, eight movies, three musicals, a music genre, and an amusement park based off of what happened when James and Lily did the frick frack.
I’m sorry but it’s pretty canon.
While we’re on the subject of SDCC… I just need a moment to add my voice to the legion of other women who have been harassed at a con.
This past weekend, I was standing in front of the Marvel booth, wearing my comfy sneakers, Captain Marvel running tank, a bomber jacket, and jeans when I had my ass grabbed.
So let me say this: For all the good that movements like “Cosplay =/= Consent” do, it does not matter what you’re wearing.
I get it. I get that it’s tough to wear a costume around the con and constantly be on your guard. I was involved in not one, but two sexual harassment incidents in one night while in a corset and Roman Centurion-style skirt at DragonCon last year. But you know what I thought was worse about Friday’s incident? It never even crossed my mind that I might be a target. When I’m wearing, say, my USO outfit, I’m on constant alert. I’m mentally prepared to wreak havoc if someone messes with me. But in civvies in the middle of a crowd, I was caught completely unawares. And that messed with my head.
I also have the added bonus of living in New York, so I go around with my guard up so high, the Night’s Watch would be impressed. I’m completely aware of my surroundings and the people near me on a crowded subway car. But on Friday, I was in a “safe” place: wandering nerdfest ‘14 SDCC with one of my best friends when I got violated by a complete stranger. A coward who saw the opportunity, took it, and got away with it, because he knew I’d never find him in the crowd. And here I am, almost a week later, and it’s still picking at my brain. I’m furious I couldn’t find the asshole that did it. I’m furious I let my guard down just because I wasn’t in costume.
And I guess what I want people to take away from my experience is this: It doesn’t matter what you’re wearing. If some nasty, contemptuous sleazeball has the motive and the opportunity, he’s going to take a chance and get his cheap thrill. And he might just get away with it. It’s not your fault. And while we shouldn’t ignore that cosplayers are prime targets, we also need to remember that there are geeky, convention-going women and girls out there who don’t feel pretty or sexy enough to be targets, but will be targeted anyway. And we need to speak out on behalf of ALL women at any convention, because this is an epidemic that has reached a boiling point, and it must be addressed: loudly and at every opportunity.
you ever notice a lot of stuff is considered poor and gross unless its upper middle class (white) people doing it
food trucks in the 90s were the realm of taco trucks and fairground food and were always considered unhygienic and nasty until all these rich city kids started opening food trucks and now they’re “trendy” and “innovative”
riding your bike to work is only considered geofriendly if you can also afford to drive a car but don’t want to, then you’re saving the earth, everyone else isn’t somehow??
recycling old cheap stuff to be used as furniture and wearing really old clothing is a sign of poverty unless you’re doing it a certain way or wearing a certain kind of old clothing
double standards are gross and you should expose them in your life as much as possible